75 – Cheat day defeat
(duration 26:20)
In this show we delve into a couple listener questions regarding the transition to a healthier dietary lifestyle. What do you with your carb/junk food “cravings”? The main task involves viewing your feelings and food choices as part of your psychology, and thus within your control. For one, it’s important to find alternatives that are both healthier and just as tasty as your not-so-healthy food choices. Second, we recommend a couple powerful psychological methods (nonviolent communication and sentence completion exercises) to reorient your way of dealing with food, which will help you come to better terms with your own emotions and choices.
Our new bonus program, Defeat Your Cheat Days, entails effectively dealing with psychological patterns and altering habits acquired since childhood for meeting your needs; and this entails developing compassion for your child-self and becoming your own best friend. The 5-day sentence completion program will help you acquire the self-knowledge and motivation needed for optimal functioning in this realm. We provide more details in our email newsletter (http://freefitnessaudio.com) as well as at http://getyourperfectweight.com
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Items mentioned in this episode:
http://healthymindfitbody.com/2010/06/02/should-you-have-cheat-days-on-a-diet/
http://healthymindfitbody.com/2010/12/17/the-4-hour-body-and-cheat-days/
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74 – Complaining effectively with psychologist Guy Winch, part 2
(duration 34:20)
This is the second half of our interview with psychologist Guy Winch, author of a new book titled, “The Squeaky Wheel: Complaining the Right Way to Get Results, Improve Your Relationships and Enhance Self-Esteem.” We start off by discussing effective complaining, which includes the components of the “complaint sandwich.” This includes the ear-opener, the content, and the digestive. Starting with something pleasant is important, because it creates a genuine connection. The content of the complaint should be only about one specific incident, without any criticism (no global assessments or impugning of character). The digestive entails a request that invokes resolution in a positive way, thus maintaining the connection.
Research shows that men need to focus on maintaining eye contact and women need to match the communication flow, so that more effective complaining can happen between couples. Constant complaining entails a theme of victimization, as the person seeks sympathy. Criticism (such as accusations, generalizations, and character slams) can be dealt with effectively, i.e., turned into valid complaints, by not taking things personally, and instead focusing on specifics that can be resolved. Parents need to step off the “demand/withdraw Merry-go-round” with their tweens/teens, by maintaining a flow of mutual interest and sharing, coupled with complaint sandwiches. Taking charge of getting your needs met through effective complaining enables your health and wellness and fosters better interactions in your personal life and in the marketplace.
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Items mentioned in this episode:
Guy’s site, where you can discover more about The Squeaky Wheel
http://www.guywinch.com
Guy’s blog on Psych Today
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-squeaky-wheel
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73 – Complaining effectively with psychologist Guy Winch, part 1
(duration 41:43)
This is the first half of our interview with psychologist Guy Winch, author of a new book titled, “The Squeaky Wheel: Complaining the Right Way to Get Results, Improve Your Relationships and Enhance Self-Esteem.” We explore the various psychological aspects of complaining. Going on rants and venting to others who aren’t in a position to resolve our complaints may be emotionally useful at times, yet they and things like “complaints choirs” tend to fall short of effective complaining.
Attitudes of helplessness, hopelessness, and pessimism practically guarantee ineffective complaining, while thinking optimistically, and especially addressing the proper person, practically guarantee getting your complaints resolved. Being persistent and methodical helps a great deal in the complaining process too. Excessive complaining, however ineffective, tends to reflect a victimized mindset that reinforces itself and fosters feelings of disempowerment and defeat. Hostility, blaming, and criticism usually generate defensiveness in the other person and represent ineffective complaining–whereas showing empathy, understanding the other person’s context, as well as reframing your own emotional state, represent effective complaining. To be continued next week…
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Items mentioned in this episode:
Guy’s site, where you can discover more about The Squeaky Wheel
http://guywinch.com
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-squeaky-wheel
http://www.guywinch.com/the-burrito-manager-who-could-not-say-sorry/
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